I’ve just gotten started on my journey of understanding my anxious attachment style. I may also have some avoidant tendencies too. It’s quite overwhelming but I have started to feel some peace knowing I can put a name to the feelings I’ve had for so long, not only in romantic relationships, but also friendships and in other areas of my life. I am finding your podcast incredibly helpful. Thank you for being a voice for the anxious attacher while also exploring and validating other attachment styles.

Over the past year I’ve been diving deep into attachment styles and it’s changed my life. I’ve felt misunderstood my whole life and Stephanie has really cured that for me. I’ve listened to each episode multiple times because I feel like I get something new out of it each time. As someone who’s always interested in bettering myself and learning how to support other better, this show was life changing. It’s gentle, informative, give actionable steps, and most importantly it highlights that non of us are perfect.

If you're looking for a glowing review of an attachment theory podcast, here's one that could highlight the key elements of such a show: I recently discovered a podcast on attachment theory, and it’s been an absolute game-changer. The hosts are incredibly knowledgeable, breaking down complex psychological concepts into easy-to-understand insights. Whether you're familiar with attachment theory or new to it, they make sure to explain everything clearly without talking down to their audience. Each episode delves into different attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized—and explores how these impact our relationships, both romantic and platonic. What really stood out to me is how practical the advice is. They don’t just tell you about the theory, but also offer real-life strategies to foster healthier connections. The guest experts they bring in are fantastic, adding depth and varied perspectives. One of my favorite parts is the Q&A segments where listeners' personal questions are addressed with compassion and thorough analysis. You can tell the hosts genuinely care about helping people better understand themselves and their relationships. If you’re looking to deepen your self-awareness, improve your relationships, or even just become a better communicator, this podcast is it!

I became a widow 3 years ago after 30 years of marriage and found myself at 52 years old back in the dating pool. I quickly realized I had some insecurity issues that became a significant problem when I started dating someone seriously. I found this podcast and have been listening religiously every day. Stephanie has such great wisdom and insight on this topic and I love listening to her very soothing voice. She seems to ground me and give me perspective when I need it. I’m so thankful to have found her podcast. I credit her with giving me the tools that have saved my relationship with my new partner. Thank you, Stephanie.

I love the energy, tone, and delivery of this podcast. It helps to make the information that much easier to digest. Each episode is packed with helpful information and clear takeaways that you can apply to your relationships. A must listen for anyone working towards a more secure attachment style!

I found this podcast just recently and I am glued to it. She really gets it. I am soaking all of this up like it’s medicine for the soul. At last, so much makes sense. It helps me to explore this anxiously attached side of myself without shame and frustration. It’s so helpful to hear her partner’s perspective as well. Thank you for sharing all this in such a calm and meaningful way.

She is one of the best. Super smart, does her research, good head on her shoulders, relatable, kind, a calming voice and an all-around good person. She has helped me heal heartbreak. I find myself not listening as much as usual though because there’s been too much on attachment styles here and everywhere - I definitely have burnout on the subject. Thank you for all your wonderful content, you are a gem.

Wow- love your tone and delivery style!! The content, sentiment, sincerity, and wisdom you share with your listeners is so thoughtful and genuine. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, From one anxious gal journeying to become securely attached 😘

i had recently tried to date after being in a long term relationship. i found myself spiraling quickly and self sabotaging almost every potential date. i had no idea what was going on, so after a major meltdown and a few buckets of tears i found stephanie’s podcast and it has literally changed my life. while im still not dating again yet, i was able to see my past relationship so differently and i’m able to work through most of my triggers. i almost always recommend stephanie’s podcast and annoyingly send her podcast to everyone i know, “here, work on yourself”. i will be forever grateful to stephanie and all her hard work. thank you! ps. i’d love some more fearful avoidant content 😬

There are so many reasons I could give you to subscribe to Stephanie Rigg's channel and to tell you to make sure to allow her content to "speak" to you week after week. Stephanie is an extraordinarily calm, compassionate, funny, but also "real" and incredibly knowledgeable podcaster on attachment. I've been in couple's therapy for almost six months now and, boy, it's been rough. After following my gut feelings that the easy fixes many youtubers and other podcasters "offer" when it comes to relationship advice and attachment style healing, I feel I have found the safest of homes in "On Attachment." Stephanie's podcast does not replace therapy (unless you combine its episodes with her own fantastic therapy sessions and classes, obviously ;)), but it comes from such a place of compassion and genuine desire to help her listeners better understand themselves and others that I still have personally found it an invaluable companion to my own journey. Stephanie has helped me understand myself, my triggers, my fears and my strengths a lot better, as well as the role of all of these in my relationship. Stephanie invites me to introspection without ever judging me. She has played a central role in my ability to grow in the very difficult times I'm currently experiencing, and I have no intention to stop listening to her when things will change, because her contents and insights are so universal and apply to all aspects of life and love. Stephanie, we're so lucky to have you and I'm so, so grateful to have found you.

I only wish this podcast had been around a decade ago. As a 36 year-old human, I have often wondered about the dynamics in healthy relationships because I have never been in neither a long-term nor a healthy relationship, and this podcast provides the perfect morsels to help those of us on healing journeys along their way to a more secure sense of self, to be a better version of yourself, and to feel more confident in what you bring to the table while dating.

Thank you so much! That was exactly what I needed to hear. New listener and will be back for more. I’ve never understood why I like to “leap frog” in early dating and what you shared made it easier to understand why going slow has always been so challenging for me. Now I feel more empowered. Tears. Truly thank you. Wish me luck!

I find Stephanie approach very accessible and informative from BOTH sides of attachment theory - very validating for each to “do the work”. She is very encouraging and speaks from her own experience which is why it is so relatable. Unscripted and from her heart.

I’ve been listening to your podcast for at least 6 months (apologies for being so tardy with my review). I can’t get enough of your podcast. I have a disorganized attachment style and benefit tremendously from your explorations of both anxious and avoidant attachment styles. I frequently relisten to previously played episodes because they can be a balm when I’m feeling activated. I feel seen and validated even if the truths are sometimes hard to hear. I am so grateful to you and your partner for making a tough subject feel less scary and more approachable.

I have been reading books and listening to other material on Attachment Theory for a few years now and this is by far the best explanation and advice I’ve found so far. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with the world! Keep up the good work!

I am a therapist and in addition I struggle with anxious attachment. Its something I have been working on for a long time. I am finding the content of this podcast so helpful; I would say the best material on attachment I have found. I also find that when my anxious attachment is activated, listening to this podcast is soothing for my nervous system. There are so many examples shared in the episodes and I say to myself, “wow this is me.” I will definitely keep listening as well as share with my clients, thankyou so much!

Stephanie, you are doing such important work! As you know, and as you’ve said, the Anxious/Avoidant relationship is fairly common. I listen to this show for hope and encouragement. The shows are nice and short for commutes, and full of helpful information. Life changing. Can’t thank you enough.

Can I leave a 10 star rating!? It is so refreshing to find someone who specifically addresses my concerns and doesn’t talk about a wide range of attachments. With my ADHD I get confused with trying to figure out how to pick out the nuggets in a podcast that I can apply to my life. With Steph’s podcasts I can use every nugget to help me through my journey. Not only does she get it, she’s been through it and she shines a light on those secret unconscious behaviors that we do that seemed so innocent until it is brought to light. I’ve been exposed!! I love how she reminds us to be gentle with ourselves and be kind to ourselves. She even explained how sometimes those quotes of “self-love” may not be as helpful when trying to learn how to self love, that writing quotes with lipstick on the mirror might not bring the results that are needed. Yep! To try using the term self-worth might be more effective to some. Yep! And there’s more. Take notes my friend while listening to her podcast and allow time to study them and work on them.

First off I wanted to say I found this podcast due to me searching up trust and jealousy. It’s something that I personally need to work on in my relationship. I’ve never had anyone word it as perfectly as you have. Thank you for your words of advice. Appreciate you and your podcast . I’m now a subscriber and listen to every new show!

Stephanie can help you understand why you feel, react, and end up in cycles in your relationships. She helps you untangle what’s going on with yourself so you can ultimately bring that healing and peace and growth to your relationship. She not only explains dynamics that can occur in a way that is nonjudgmental but also gives detailed guidance and concrete examples of how to handle situations without making it the ONLY way to handle them. Listening to this show can truly help you learn about yourself, communication, relationships, and growth. I recommended it to a friend in a difficult relationship and relied on some of the teachings during my own. This is never a waste of time. And also her voice is just so soothing! hahah

While it might be a common misconception that men don't experience anxious attachment, it does happen and I am one of these unicorns. Found Stephanie over a year ago following a life changing breakup and while she doesn't know me, she has been my companion and strengthened me since then to be better and more secure. I'm so glad I found her. Ps: I didn't think the perfect voice existed but she has it!

So informative on a deep level of the body and soul. So supportive and practical. Such balanced perspectives and insights on the full spectrum of each attachment style and how they relate to one another. Your heart and mind are beautiful to be with. Beyond grateful, thank you Stephanie 🦋🌹

I have been trough 2 divorces and many years of choosing to be alone. Recently I decided I want to have a LTR with a committed partner. As soon as I started navegating the dating scene my past anxiety hit me again. I tried to understand why since I was not even that interested in this person anyway and it was so early on but I couldn’t so I just thought I am not meant to be with someone. Until someone told me about anxious attachment and I landed on Stephanie’s podcast with has been the most eye opening experience to me so far of how my brain actually works and why I do feel so out of control and overtaken by a tornado of anxious emotions when I attempt to have a partner. In her podcast she has a way of explaining how anxious attachment works and even the possibility that it can be healed which it is a light in the end of a very narrow tunel with the possibility that I might actually find a way to be a better person in a relationship and who knows maybe feel loved and make it last. Thank you for giving hope when I obviously have lost it.

This podcast has been so life changing for me. I am currently going through a breakup and binging this podcast has opened my eyes to so much about the patterns within that relationship as well as my own. The tools I am learning are invaluable as I began implementing them and can see the changes they create. Thank you so very much Stephanie! 💗

I am in the midst of a classic anxious-avoidant love challenge. After our first instance of sudden and unexpected avoidance I put two and two together and started realizing what was going on. Somehow I started getting retargeted by video shorts by dozens of so called relationship experts, all of whom warned that my only path to dealing with an avoidant was to cut bait and disappear on him. I spent 4 weeks in complete turmoil feeling the greatest and most desperate sense of loss and despair. I happened upon Stephanie Rigg’s podcast and systematically binge-listened to most of them over the course of 2 weeks, each one soothing my soul more than the last. Only when I came to the newest one and had a major epiphany that none of the other anxious-avoidant content had addressed: this was a human in pain, and in my despair I was placing all the blame on him and assuming his wrong doing was one sided, while also not being empathetic or compassionate. This was not me. My anxiety had completely hijacked my personality and my instincts. It took me 24 hours to reset myself after working hard to seek deep within myself, including downloading Stephanie’s self healing content and watching every bit of video I could find. In a moment of pure insight, I reached out and instead of assuming intent of my avoidant, I responded with pure and genuine empathy. I was still assuming the worst and that we were finished, but instead of anger or blame I showed compassion. This was as a direct result of resetting my understanding of the situation with a the breakthrough after I A) stopped listening to other content providers who simply demonized avoidants, and B) hearing Stephanie explain and guide. When I truly stopped my spinning and understood her — magic happened, and we came to understand each other at a different level. Still early days but things look promising. And more importantly, even if it does not progress well, I now have the tools to break away with grace and kindness versus allowing myself to be tormented and injured by my own anxiety. Thank you Stephanie.

I’ve listened to similar podcasts for years. This is the first review I think I’ve ever written. I’ve had anxious attachment as long as I can remember, and podcasts have always helped… but every single episode of this podcast has something in it that makes monumental shifts in my thinking and behavior and I’m making real improvement in my life and relationships. I’m so so grateful. And, I understand this is a job for many if not most podcasters, but I also find myself appreciating the lack of sales undertone in the episodes; when she discusses things that can be purchased it just feels authentic. There’s no long tangents about xyz to be purchased. Sorry, not to knock the other podcasters. it’s just refreshing. LOVE this podcast. I keep a journal nearby and write down so much of the nuggets of wisdom. I hope she keeps going with this podcast and if she runs out of things to talk about with attachment style, branches out to other things she feels called to help people with.

My partner and I have unconsciously been living out an anxious-avoidant trap for 3.5 years. We’ve read books, gone to therapy, done plant medicine, but nothing has been as effective in giving us the self-awareness and tools to break the anxious-avoidant cycle as Stephanie’s body of work. Her podcast and Secure Together course are equipping us with the hope that we can fix the sticky parts and open the lines of communication and love. Thank you so much, Stephanie (and Joel), for your devotion to this work.

I’ve been searching and listening to many relationship podcasts over the last year. This is one of the best. I’m happy it was finally suggested to me. Leaving a 5 star review to hopefully help others find it too.

This podcast could be so much better if the beginning wasn’t so exhausting to listen to. Please shorten the intro and cut out the repetitive excess info. Also the sound echo is difficult to listen to. Other than that she has a pleasant voice and helpful perspective.

Thank you, Stephanie for sharing your journey. You and your courage are changing lives. Warm Regards

If you have anxious thoughts or feelings around dating, this podcast is bound comforting, supportive and reassuring! I have thoroughly enjoyed each episode I have listened to and would highly recommend this podcast to anyone wanting to learn more about the anxious attachment style.

I am so glad my dear therapist told me about this podcast. It has been such a fantastic tool not only in navigating a relationship with my partner, but also how I relate with my children and friends. Stephanie is so wonderful and I absolutely love her voice!

I’m a recovering anxiously attached person and Stephanie’s podcast has helped me so much. I find that not only is she very knowledgeable in her work, but she’s also so kind in her delivery which is so needed these days. I really appreciate this podcast as I am not able to continue going to therapy due to financial reasons but at least having this podcast to tune into is extremely helpful. Thank you!

I’m so glad my friend told me about this show. It has been tremendously helpful as I navigate some very difficult relationship issues today. Stephanie is empowering me to do the right things for myself when I sometimes think I am not strong enough.

Over the past 18 months I have been trying to “fix” my 8 year relationship with my boyfriend. I was introduced to attachment styles and it was like a spot light- right on me!! It all started to make sense ! I found your podcast and have been committed to listening and doing this work for myself. I have learned that I have been ignoring myself, I have not even thought about what I WANT or what my own values are! Your podcast has helped me uncover my barriers and take action to heal my avoidant tendencies and really sit and learn to build back my relationship with myself! Your podcast is so easy to listen to and I love all the key takeaways to help me take action in my real life!! With your help I KNOW I will have better relationships going forward! I can see the changes in myself already! I can not recommend your podcast enough! I am so grateful for your knowledge & can not thank you enough for showing up everyday and serving for all of us! You are helping so many people heal and that my friend is ever so priceless! Thank you for all you do! Cindy

I recently learned about attachment styles and in a effort to learn more about myself and my partner , I stumbled upon this podcast and am grateful for its content. I’m more informed and therefore feel empowered to confidently navigate my relationships with others. Thank you Stephanie!

Incredible content, absolutely love your podcast and views on becoming securely attached. Thank you!

Thank you Stephanie for sharing your amazing information on relationships. I feel like you are a hidden gem and we are all so lucky to have found you! I’ve been struggling on this very issue. For the last year I’ve fallen for an incredible man and he’s so unexpected from the types of men I’ve dated in the past. I see how my anxious attachment style and his avoidant style have really been at odds with each other which has caused me so much confusion and stress. I enjoy how you bring up the delicate topic without pointing fingers. Sometimes it’s too overwhelming to sort this all out but luckily you have plenty of great content. Thank you! I even joined your waitlist because I’m 50% of the problem and 100% of the solution. This is my first step in changing the only person I truly can…me.

This podcast has been just what I needed to help me deal with my recent breakup. It was so nice to hear that not only was I not alone in my feelings, but that there is help out there. Thank you Stephanie for being kind and compassionate with every episode. I now feel empowered to search inward and find out who I am now without being in a relationship. I know this podcast will help me through and also help me become the best version of myself when I am ready to date again. Thank you so much!

Thanks for the continued great content. I would be so curious to hear about this on an episode: are there general clues in the beginning that a romantic it interest has avoidant attachment? Aside from the obvious ones? It seems folks with anxious attachment repetitively seek out avoidant folks. This can be hard to discern at the beginning when the person with avoidant attachment is interested. But we are somehow subconsciously drawn to them. Would love to hear your thoughts. 💜

I do find that this pod is one of the more basic ones. Thoughtful words get put together meaningfully until Stephanie starts promoting her paid course. This is unfortunate

I only discovered this podcast a few days ago, but I am being helped SO MUCH by it. I recently went through a breakup from an 11 year relationship that had become toxic over the past several years. My anxious attachment style meant that I had tried EVERYTHING to make it work, to make him engage in working at our relationship, meanwhile settling for crumbs until the relationship finally crumbled to pieces. I was devastated that nothing I could do was enough. However your podcast is helping me so much, and I’ve repeated listened to the episode “Why Are Toxic Relationships So Hard To Recover From”, and I am learning so much and understanding things that are helping me move forward. Thank you SO MUCH!!! I would give 10 stars if I could!!!

I am a man with an anxious attachment style who has a wife who is very much avoidant. When I found out about this challenging dynamic I searched online for a podcast on it and found Stephanie and I am SO grateful that I did. I have been binge-listening to her podcast and soaking up the insights like a sponge. What once seemed complex, heavy and insurmountable about our dynamic now seems understandable and I have hope that we can help each other heal and grow stronger together. Her free Masterclass was great too! Thank you for your generous and valuable work Stephanie!

After ending a 20 yr marriage and starting to date again, this podcast has helped me through many rough spots. My bf of almost 4 years suddenly started avoiding me and ghosted me. He had a lot going on in a drawn out messy divorce, but he was really the first person I felt safe and secure with- maybe ever. I noticed I wasn’t on high alert with him constantly and had a lot of faith in us. He told me he wanted to break up because of our kids having a tough time with us dating, even though we always said it wasn’t up to them who we spend our time with. I felt sorry for him… from February 2023 until July 2023- when I looked over the phone bill and saw he had been cheating on me since probably Sept 2022. It blew my mind. This has been the worst breakup I’ve ever been through and has cycled me through all the stages of grief and heartbreak several times. Your podcast has kept me grounded and is something I turn to when I feel myself spiraling into “that place”. Your talks on attachment have helped me focus more on myself and less on investigating a past failed relationship. Thank you for the work you do and I hope you’ll do a few incorporating single moms navigating heartbreak while parenting!!!

Thank you Stephanie for your work and these podcasts. My new partner introduced me to your podcast and it has really helped my healing journey and ability to move toward secure attachment. It gives me hope for a lasting and fulfilling relationship after two divorces. (And I’m a psychologist!) My lean towards anxious attachment and the origin wounds I didn’t understand I had were having such a detrimental impact on relationships and my sense of peace in life. This has been a really helpful part of my journey and I’m grateful.

I feel like Stephanie has been beside me every step of my growth this year. I discovered On Attachment at the beginning of the year and the beginning of a new relationship. I knew I wanted to be intentional with how I navigate my anxious attachment, and Stephanie held my hand (virtually) through it all — even when the relationship ended. Stephanie has such a unique gift of presenting valuable, straightforward information while still handling her listeners with care. I don’t think I would be nearly as equipped to handle the breakup had it not been for On Attachment. Now, I notice myself beginning to shift into more secure behavior, and to me, that is the greatest gift I’ve given myself. Thank you, Stephanie. You have no idea how many dark days were made a little brighter by playing my favorite episodes.

Wow! There are a few therapists/coaches I follow and this is one of the bests. Her style and information truly hits home and provides me with more insights on how to be a better partner and better for myself. I just started listening and every episode has something I can benefit from hearing. Thank you!

This episode really brought to light for me why people who are anxiously attached struggle with casual sex. This has always been something I’ve wanted to learn about. And it’s really cool to be able to understand that those folks are normal and their needs are valid.

Stephanie's podcast has quickly become my go-to source to help me go through a recent break up. She has a excellent style and cadence to break things down in a way anyone can relate to and use practically. While I continue my journey with my own therapist her podcast has helped me fill in the blanks and augment where necessary. I have begun to suggest it to others due to her rich content and useful approach to explaining the anxious atttachment mindset and healing.

Stephanie, I just wanted to thank you so much for creating this podcast. I have been learning more about my anxious attachment style, coming from an unpredictable family of origin household, and your episodes have helped me more than anything to understand and contextualize my background, so I can learn how to handle my relationships with more intention and integrity. Maybe I’ll find growth and healing! -jake