Fierce Marriage

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Hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with transparency, humor, and gospel-centeredness. Join in for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around.

Recent Episodes
  • 12 Tactics of the Devil to Destroy Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)
    Feb 18, 2025 – 0:46:12
  • 12 Tactics of the Devil to Destroy Your Marriage (Part 1 of 2)
    Feb 11, 2025 – 0:32:49
  • 3 Ways to Keep a Clean House
    Jan 28, 2025 – 0:22:27
  • Are You in a Truly Christian Marriage?
    Jan 21, 2025 – 0:27:48
  • How to Pray Together in Marriage (even when it's awkward)
    Jan 14, 2025 – 0:28:18
  • Big Announcement!
    Jan 3, 2025 – 0:02:31
  • What if I'm in a Sexless Marriage?
    Dec 17, 2024 – 0:30:54
  • Why You NEED to Join a Good Church for the Good of Your Marriage
    Dec 3, 2024 – 0:25:23
  • GRATITUDE Changes Everything About Marriage
    Nov 26, 2024 – 0:39:09
  • Learning to Love IN-LAWS Better
    Nov 20, 2024 – 0:31:23
  • 5 Lessons Learned to Stop Arguing About MONEY
    Nov 12, 2024 – 0:29:48
  • 5 Ways to FINALLY Get Unity Around Time and Priorities
    Oct 29, 2024 – 0:24:49
  • Lessons Learned about S X in 20ish Years of Marriage
    Oct 22, 2024 – 0:29:05
  • 7 Ways to Have Better Conflict In Your Marriage
    Oct 15, 2024 – 0:32:11
  • 4 Massive Lessons Learned on Communication
    Oct 8, 2024 – 0:30:24
  • The Greatest Adultery Repellant Known to Man
    Sep 25, 2024 – 0:26:49
  • 20+ Creative Date Ideas to Stay Connected
    Sep 17, 2024 – 0:32:04
  • Why Even Stay Married? What's the Point?
    Sep 10, 2024 – 0:30:36
  • Q & A: Rebuilding Trust After It's Been Lost (Trust and Betrayal, 5 of 5)
    Sep 3, 2024 – 0:53:52
  • Creating Healthy Boundaries Around Tech in Marriage (Part 2 of 2)
    Aug 14, 2024 – 0:37:02
  • Phones, Video Games, Tech, and How They Affect Your Marriage (w/ Guests Nathan and Anna Sutherland, Part 1 of 2)
    Aug 7, 2024 – 0:42:29
  • Maintaining Strong Trust in Marriage (Trust and Betrayal 4 of 5)
    Jul 30, 2024 – 0:33:23
  • Repairing Trust After It's Broken (Trust and Betrayal 3 of 5)
    Jul 23, 2024 – 0:48:18
  • Dealing with Betrayal of Trust (Trust and Betrayal 2 of 5)
    Jul 16, 2024 – 0:41:30
  • How They Rebuilt Trust After Betrayal
    Jul 9, 2024 – 0:25:47
  • The Foundation of Trust in Marriage (Building and Repairing Trust, 1 of 5)
    Jun 25, 2024 – 0:30:04
  • Don't Be Blindsided by Divorce, Do This Marriage Check Up
    Jun 18, 2024 – 0:36:03
  • Crushing Comparison (Stop Comparing to Others!)
    Jun 11, 2024 – 0:35:02
  • 10 (Simple) Ways to De-Escalate Arguments and Fights
    Jun 4, 2024 – 0:33:16
  • What if We're Unequally Yoked?
    May 28, 2024 – 0:26:36
  • What's the Right Age to Get Married? Should I Marry Young?
    May 21, 2024 – 0:35:33
  • Rule Bender vs Rule Follower?? Honoring Each Others' Differences in Marriage
    May 14, 2024 – 0:31:38
  • Should Your Spouse Really Be Your Friend?
    May 7, 2024 – 0:31:48
  • Ways to Warm Up a Cold Marriage
    Apr 23, 2024 – 0:34:04
  • What if I want kids but my spouse doesn't?
    Apr 9, 2024 – 0:33:48
  • Marriage & Money- Tithing, Joint Accounts, and More
    Apr 2, 2024 – 0:32:06
  • The 8 Purposes of Sex
    Mar 19, 2024 – 0:34:11
  • Why Check-Ins Matter and How To Do Them Well
    Mar 12, 2024 – 0:33:46
  • Help! My Wife Wears Yoga Pants to the Gym and I Hate It
    Feb 27, 2024 – 0:30:41
  • Follow-Up: Answering Questions About Husbands Initiating Intimacy
    Feb 20, 2024 – 0:28:31
  • Why Husbands Should Be the Primary Initiators of S-- (Part 2)
    Feb 13, 2024 – 0:30:51
  • Why Husbands Should Be the Primary Initiators of S-- (Part 1)
    Feb 6, 2024 – 0:26:10
  • Learning to Trust Again After Trust Was Lost
    Jan 23, 2024 – 0:31:51
  • The Art of Asking Great Questions (and Why it Changes Everything in Marriage)
    Jan 16, 2024 – 0:34:10
  • Faithful, Fruitful, and Fierce (Session 1 of the Fierce Families Conference)
    Jan 9, 2024 – 0:28:58
  • What if Satan Took Up Marriage Counseling?
    Jan 2, 2024 – 0:26:38
  • The Need to Review and Reset for Marital Growth
    Dec 26, 2023 – 0:30:16
  • The Manner and Method of Speaking Truth WITH Love
    Dec 12, 2023 – 0:20:00
  • What if My Spouse Let's Themself Go? Is it Shallow to Care About How My Spouse Looks?
    Dec 5, 2023 – 0:38:05
  • What If I'm No Longer Attracted to My Wife?
    Nov 21, 2023 – 0:27:16
Recent Reviews
  • Marebelle87
    Renewed in his grace
    Selena and Ryan, I found you on YouTube under your video “Dealing with Shame and Regret After an Affair” you being led by the lord with the right words have helped me in ways I will be eternally grateful. I know our God is forgiving but just could not forgive myself. But I have now. I had to come subscribe and can’t wait to hear more. I made a very bad choice that never in my life I thought I could do, but I lost God during that time in my life. I will never let him go again because he stayed by my side the entire time. Our God loves us even when we are not perfect and do wrong. Thank you for the blessing I received and whenever I am down I will go to him for comfort, not drown in my shame 🤎
  • HeatherHowes
    Gratefulness over came Grudges!
    Selena and Ryan, I am grateful for your ministry! As a wife homemaking with 6 kiddos, I need a source that’s on demand to go to! Your podcasts are applicable immediately! I can truely say they are of the Lords practical ways as I have been able to apply many teachings and they’ve transformed our home and mainly my own heart! Blessings to you all!
  • PathOfPersecution
    Fruitful and Edifying
    Unfortunately my wife and I are unequally yoked. I came to my relationship in Christ after we got married 3 years later and I love this podcast and my wife was open to do the pursuit challenge devotionals! Thank you guys for your ministry! PRAISE GOD!
  • Nikki_jones5009
    Unequally yoked :(
    I have been in this marriage that’s falling apart and I’m trying to hard to save it. We’re in our late 30’s, he’s wanting out but I’m praying so hard! I’m trying to learn how to come to God fearlessly, have faith and stay hopeful even though he’s not praying or wanting counseling I’m praying, crying, going through all the emotions… & idk how bring us back to being equally yoked, understanding, respectful, giving more consistency, restoration of love and all the other things God would want us to do …. Praying that God has he’s way with me and him … please keep us in prayer Nikki & Chauncey
  • hedzie
    I love this podcast!
    Ryan and Selena feels like our married besties! We have gleaned and learned so much from their wisdom, and value how everything always points back to the goodness, intimacy and love of the Father. Their practical wisdom and gift for breaking complex situations / conversations down has been a true gift! It’s been a gift each week to apply their wisdom and thoughts to our marriage and seeing the fruits of it.
  • Taylorrr_MD
    Love this!
    So helpful and encouraging thank u.
  • DJ is the daddy mac
    Amazing
    Although I’ve only listened to one episode on rebuilding trust. it was so gratifying, listening to this couple talk about how to rebuild a trust with your spouse. I was the one that broke my wife’s trust in our finances. And I hope and pray that Jesus Christ Can help us repair what I had broken
  • GFox337
    Great and Helpful
    This has been a joy to listen to for the sake of our marriage. These two are an example and a blessing. Grace is imperative to embrace but also to extend frequently to your spouse. Thank you for always tying it back to the gospel in all the issues.
  • GinaR86
    Antifeminist?
    Initially I liked how both spouses participated about equally in the podcast. However, after a few episodes, I was shocked to hear Selena bash feminists. I wondered how a woman can possibly be anti-feminist! But I can’t blame her. Selena’s view is unfortunately a perpetuation of the long-held, long-preached MANmade “Christian” ideas that women are inferior. These ideas are so strong in our culture that even women may believe them! The book “The Making of Biblical Womanhood” by Beth Allison Barr explains in much more depth. I feel bad for only giving 2 stars, because I did actually like a lot of the initial content I heard, but I couldn’t get Selena’s comment out of my head and eventually could no longer bring myself to listen, particularly when I saw that an episode topic was about a husband getting jealous when his wife wore yoga pants to the gym. The mere possibility that the husband’s view might be validated and the wife’s might even be vilified was too big a turnoff. Maybe they ended up saying the husband was in the wrong—I hope that’s the case! But as I said, I couldn’t bring myself to listen, already hearing plenty of anti-feminist (i.e. anti female) content in my daily life as a woman.
  • sarahster
    Lost me with the latest episode
    There’s nothing wrong with being a Christian couple and not wanting children. Children ARE a precious gift but that doesn’t mean every couple is meant and required to have them? And if you don’t have them you are some how disobedient? If you are a believer and you are in tune with God and filled with His Spirit then God will place that desire on your heart. I know many couples both in and out of ministry who do not have that desire right now. It’s not selfish it’s just not what they’ve been called to do. It’s okay to take “be fruitful and multiple” to the 10th degree for your own life but to standardize YOUR interpretation of the Word and make these blanket statements is a bit irresponsible. I can imagine this episode was especially hard for couples who can’t conceive. I love my child and we do want more so it’s not even that this even applied to me. Just please do a better job of differentiating between your personal interpretations and the text. As soon as they started citing articles as additional authority to beef up the argument that’s when I stopped tuning in. Go into this podcast knowing the Word for yourself so you can discern personal opinion from Biblical authority.
  • alnaspab0501
    Great Christian marriage content
    Love listening to these guys, their perspective on Christian marriage and issues not normally talked about but issues common to most marriages.
  • Ale S-M
    In laws
    Their episode on dealing with boundaries with in-laws is sooo helpful. How refreshing to find a podcast that dives right into the topic instead of spending the first 15 min talking gibberish. As someone who was emotionally charged (upset) at the time I put this podcast on I can say I found peace in the way they conveyed the conflict resolution strategies. Their examples were clear and to the point. Thank you and keep up the good work!
  • B3asy
    They say a lot without saying anything
    These two sound like two people who don’t know what they are talking about and just fill time with more words Not quality information
  • hljjk
    Single and waiting
    I know this is a marriage podcast but as a single sister in Christ this podcast is very edifying, convicting, informative, and biblical. I love the wisdom! I believe as someone who is single and desires marriage this podcast is soooooooo gooooood!!!! Praise the Lord! Thank you Selena and Ryan for what you do! Thank you for following the Lord’s call upon your life!
  • court0714
    Betrayed spouses
    If you are a betrayed spouse do not get your advice from them. I just listened to them heap shame on a woman’s shoulders that did not deserve it. Heartbroken for her and hope she finds solid healing advice elsewhere.
  • rmsilva317
    Edifying & Encouraging
    Absolutely my go-to marriage podcast. With all the voices out there casting doubt and division on marriage and spouses, listening to this podcast helps me keep my focus and perspective on marriage and my husband a Christ-centered one. My husband started listening too, after I did and our interactions and perspectives have changed for the better. So thankful for the time and effort put in to putting this out for the world!
  • het070823!
    Very good
    I just started listening to this podcast so I’m doing a lot of catching up. We just got married 6 months ago, and this has helped us get on the right track together. Love the energy and spiritual messages.
  • Maileey90
    Just what I was looking for.
    Very helpful.
  • KrispyH1234!
    Awesome Podcast!
    I am so glad to have found this podcast on Facebook. Both of you are an encouragement to my marriage as we work through communication in our marriage of 15 years, and realize that we have differences we didn’t even know about. I love that you guys laugh together, and I love the baby noises in the background…. Children are so important to us as a family with 5 littles ages 12-2. I love that family is so important and that God is glorified in the good, the bad, and the ugly! Keep up the good work for Christ! ❤️
  • molunel
    Second marriages
    I am new here. I am in my second marriage after my first husband of 26 years passed away. I have been married to my second husband for 9 years. Second marriages are way harder than firsts. But they are still so worth fighting for. We are both Catholic. I have enjoyed your podcast. It has made me stop and think and pray many a time. It has encouraged me to dig deep and not give up on our Sacrament, our marriage. So the content is relevant even for those of us who are older. God bless you two.
  • behvdvdbbeihdb ektn
    Okay
    The baby noise in the background is too distracting while I’m trying to focus on the message.
  • TnT 61
    Excellent
    Excellent podcast! Keep it up!!!
  • David & Macie
    Love this podcast with Ryan & Selena
    Started listening yesterday and now have listened to about 5 podcasts so far. I know I will look forward to listening to them with my fiancé. We are getting married next month and so far the insights have been great. Love our Jesus and like-minded brothers and sisters in Christ. Thank you Jesus for directing me to these podcast I’ve never been patient enough to listen to these but with my growth with God and my soon to be marriage I know that God directed because I needed to hear a lot of these discussions. Thank you both as well for allowing God to lead you to this ministry. Such a blessing.
  • ccmedicmom
    Honesty and Truth!
    Ryan and Selena are so honest about tough issues in marriage. They’re candid discussions always point you right to God’s Word.
  • Lyndi M <3
    Rekindled so much!
    Selena and Ryan are so genuine and truly assisted in making me not only enjoy podcasts in general, but find myself being a more intentional Christian wife. I appreciate how much they have helped both my husband and I be more intentional with each other and with our faith overall! We appreciate how you have helped us rekindle some of our missing spark and overcome some obstacles we didn’t even realize we were facing. God is good and your words have brought out more prayer in my life and our marriage.
  • fujiapplepi
    Wise and Helpful Podcast!
    God-honoring wisdom presented in a concise and engaging manner
  • Mollyp1980
    What a BLESSING!!!
    I have just jumped on listening to Ryan and Selena! Their biblical insight has truly helped me look at my marriage and the struggles we have in a totally different way! I thank you both for your ministry and am so thankful to be a small part!!
  • Raemond116
    Genuine & Honest
    Just love how honest and genuine Ryan and Selena are in their conversations. Also love how they point people to Christ. It’s been a big blessing to me. New listener.
  • Tate.B 💗
    The Most Helpful Marriage Tool Ever
    My husband and I have been married for just about a year now and we were engaged for 9 months before that. I found this podcast and started listening to it early in our engagement to prepare myself for marriage. We did premarital counseling as well and loved it, but nothing has helped prepare my heart and mind for marriage more than this podcast! I understand Biblical marriage, our relationship, my role as a wife, and honestly God’s heart so much deeper and better because of this podcast. Thank you guys so, so much for all the hard work! I can’t express just how much this podcast has helped. (And I’m not even caught up yet, I started all the way at the beginning and am working my way forward). Next step, Fierce Parenting haha!
  • JVH10
    Love
    Love hearing them laugh together! On my first episode and hearing them really enjoy their time together and laughing makes me look forward to my husband and I laughing like this again.
  • alli.keizer
    currently binging
    just found this podcast recently and i’ll be binging it until i’m out of episodes, it’s SO good 🤍
  • Kyle K_82
    Now on a Binge
    Just found this podcast and already cannot get enough. Becoming a favorite very quickly. Keep it up!
  • Amfuller752
    Love this podcast!
    I’m continuing to enjoy this podcast and just feel like it’s a great resource for how I approach my marriage. I really appreciate the gospel-centered content and encouragement that you guys have for all marriages. Thank you too for being truthful and gracious about all topics!
  • Eriebearie
    I used to love this podcast
    I have never done a review for a podcast but I feel like this is important. I used to love this podcast but when I heard the episode "intimacy without obligation," I was disgusted. The message they are trying to portray is not only damaging to those that were raised with the belief that women are there to "service" their spouse, but also to someone like me, who was sexually assaulted when I was a teen. They are taking scripture and twisting it. To put out a blanket statement like that is super gross. I get that they can put out whatever they want but I have the choice to not listen and I pray this message doesn't do damage for others.
  • johnsonrach60
    Intimacy without obligation episode
    I have enjoyed other episodes although I personally found this episode disturbing. Speaking about how the Bible says to not deprive your spouse. My interpretation was have sex even when you don’t want to or feel like it. I guess this works for you guys…having to ask your wife “is this okay” and her response is ya just doing it to keep you happy is gross to me. Every relationship is different but not how my marriage is. Especially as someone who has experienced sexual assault I don’t advise the open ended advice given in this episode. I feel strongly that no women should feel forced into sex with anyone especially her husband just because of a verse in the Bible. It seems damaging to a relationship in my opinion. Just wanted to share my thoughts on this episode in particular.
  • KM9876CG
    Gospel-centered, practical help
    Love this fun, funny, very Bible-based podcast. So practical and helpful as they are vulnerable and speak from wisdom and experience. Also love that simply knowing Jesus is the core of their mission and they invite listeners every time into that relationship. Thank you for this tool that you’ve put into our hands!
  • Lexie5577
    Thank you
    Thank You for your guidance and perspective on how to be connected after having a new baby. This episode literally gave me everything I didn’t know or have. My understanding has been enhanced and I’m so appreciative for this. GOD bless you two.
  • res67
    Mostly good!!
    I really like listening to this podcast! Most of the time, their topics and conversations are great to listen to and give me good material to think about. However, I don’t really care for Ryan’s tendency to talk over Selena. He presents as fairly condescending sometimes and while I’m sure it’s not intentional, it’s off-putting. I would absolutely love to hear more from Selena. How she maintains biblical wife and motherhood, with growing family and growing responsibilities with ministry, and likely other personal developments!
  • Christybug1984
    Let Selena Talk!
    I really want to love this podcast and I love the messaging most of the time. What I have a hard time getting past is the fact that Ryan constantly talks over Selena. Most of your listeners are probably women, and I for one enjoy her point of view, but I can’t ever hear the entire thought because Ryan constantly steamrolls her. Not sure I want marriage advice from a man who doesn’t respect his wife enough to let her speak.
  • JesseB2212
    Godly
    I have been following you and started listening to your pod cast recently. What a blessing it is to listen to you both. Thank you for being obedient. I have been married for going on two years and seriously need Gods help. Your pod casts have been so helpful. In the episode about transparency you talk about how y’all were in the beginning and that’s how we are. Truly love your content thank you for. Wing obedient and sharing the Love of God and what you learn about marriage.
  • angelasweetheart81
    Good common sense
    Sounds like they have a lot of good common sense with a biblical foundation. Highly Recommend!
  • webtm
    Good subjects !
    Just discovered your podcast. So thankful. Looking forward to listening!
  • edttrtg
    Connection point
    My wife use this to listen to at night instead of tv or on our phones. It always leads to great discussion. We have Laughed more, cried more, prayed more, over came more temptations have been defeated, less fights, have changed many mindsets, and have had more sex that was more connected and more fun than we have had in years. Thank You for creating such great content. I love your guys humor. May God Bless You.
  • stirrettr
    Amazing Resource
    I always enjoy the realness of this podcast. I relate to all the topics and always find a way to apply them, and I really enjoy the structure and banter. Keep it real! Be
  • 1999goodyear
    Exhausted Wife
    I have been married for 23 years. My husband is a leader in our community,church etc. I have lifted him up , covered his messes and continue to get screamed at like I’m a child. He hollers if I balance checkbook pay bills etc so I stop so he won’t feel like I’m CONTROLLING him yet he will do it for a week then ‘ think ‘ he took care of everything and our disconnect bill comes, car doesn’t get paid , I go to get gas and my card is declined because there’s no money in the bank and I have to borrow money from my kids for gas to make it home. So I get screamed at again because somehow I’m telling him what to do by asking him why there’s no money.. and he keeps saying I’m gonna change but as long as everyone else thinks he’s great he doesn’t give one single rip about what his wife or kids think about him. I’ve tried everything to make the man happy and act happy when I’m dying inside . I cannot even have an adult conversation where I’m aloud to have an opinion that defers from his . So yeah I’m exhausted and you can tell me some more how I can keep hoping for an eternal reward when I won’t even make it to heaven
  • Mrs.Stewie
    Becoming Fierce
    My husband and I started listening to Ryan and Selena a couple years ago when we were on the brink of divorce, after suffering multiple traumas within six months of each other. By Gods grace we have fought for one another, found ourselves an awesome church and my husband accepted Christ into his heart as his personal savior. Which, led me back to God, repentance, and desire to live life renewed in Him. I listen to all the “Frederick fierces” on my way to and from work. It helps me stay focused and motivated in my relationship with God, husband and family. Thank you Ryan and Selena for what you do!
  • whizmama120886
    Funny, great topics, sticks to the word , and just all around great for couples or singles
    If you’re looking for a podcast to address a variety issues while showing what the gospel says on the matter look no further than fierce marriage! My husband and I have benefited so much from their podcasts as their not only funny and factual but relatable! Scroll through and you’re sure to find some where to start and from there you’ll be hooked . Enjoy y’all !
  • Beauty.in.Christ93
    Encouraging, life giving, and helpful.
    I really love this podcast! They address marriage questions with such sobriety, grace, love, light hearted humor, and joy.
  • Kemp1118
    Wisdom and honesty
    These two are amazing at being real and honest with the world we are in today. God has blessed them to help all marriages in this world and I love listening! Thank you Ryan and Selena! ❤️
  • Aaronfitz01
    Faithful
    Thank you guys for being faithful in your walks of like. Your walk with the Lord. Your walk with each other. Your walk with your kids. And also your walk with us. I can not begin to express my gratitude towards you guys and how the Lord is using you. This podcast has been a light in a very dark time in my life. Continually bringing me back to the foot of the cross and Jesus. Thank you and God bless.
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